TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is
broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust
leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and
enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She
answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB."
There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she
Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my
Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is." Without mutual
trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone
operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful
marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law
answered in a smile, "Never criticise your wife for her shortcomings or
when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her
shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better
husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of
losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around
to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We
should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other
four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive others, others will
ignore our mistake too.
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested
"I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU
officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite,
humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to
accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I
don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for
conversation and be silent when I want to rest."
The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need
television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind
wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of
the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many
couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual
perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off,
they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The
nightmare begins.
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or
demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all
and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually,
this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning
that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's
character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on
changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will
either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of
wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget
mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it
would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A
worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We
used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire
husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife
of a construction worker." She answered, "You should
appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and
not you." Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad
relationship.
BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States.
A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his
three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the
truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's
hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his
son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the
crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's
hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he
innocently said, " Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but
when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed
suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish
to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u
love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't.
Too often we fail to recognise the difference between the person and the
performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we
take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive & forget. Love
one and all. If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
-annoymous-
things were no longer like b4. we used to be so sweet and loving but now, there seemed to be a gap. perhaps it is due to the insecurities that we both gave eachother, but i swear i'm true to him. words r just like glue trying to mend the whole picture tgt. but no matter how sincere are the words trying to inject into his mind, it can never be mended completely ; a crack will always be a crack.
i'm rather fatigue abt the suspicion that he wearily carries upon me, the request from him to do something which is almost quite unnecessary etc.. but.. it's cuz i love him. i couldn't bear to leave this rs in lurch, couldn't bear to give up the hard work that was been built up over the past months for this rs.
things always happen lydat. i dunnoe y. i detest those farkers hu gave ill suggestions and brainwashed an almost confused mind. they r the ones hu brought misery over one night and caused destruction to a beautiful rs.
hmm.. jus hope everything will be fine. i yearned for a beautiful ending not a beautiful disaster.
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